Do Men Think You Are Unapproachable? Is That Ok With You?
Posted on October 21, 2008 - Filed Under Uncategorized |
From The E Mail Bag
Andreya writes: “I do want to be with my body/mind/soulmate. I
don’t remember being abandoned by girlfriends while I was dating
someone nor when I broke up with him. I found my girlfirends most
supportive. This was true for boyfriends and when I divorced?..
I have long-term male and female friends, friendships lasting
decades. I am visiting a guy friend and his family as well as a single
friend for two weeks each on my trip to California?.
AND, I am still single and would prefer to be with my body/mind/soulmate. (I want it all.)?
Hi Andreya,
Thanks for your post. I admire your ability to sustain lasting
relationships for so many years. It is comforting to have a host of
supporters?like the cell phone commercial! Even though you have
wonderful friends, there is no doubt that what you want (to meet men
who could be that Soul Mate) is not measuring up to what is happening
(you are only meeting men who do not qualify or you are not meeting new
and interesting men at all).
What I do know for sure from my work with highly successful
women who are not with the man ideally suited to them for a long term
relationship, is that they are not aware of the image they are
projecting to the world.
Most are stunned to realize that they are projecting an “I’m not
available? image. Not only that, little do they know that this image or
vibe is amazingly efficient at keeping the “right? type of man out of
their experience.
How do I know this to be true? Exactly, how many prospects with real
potential have you dated in the last year? I rest my case!
If you think you might be sending out this “I love being single?
vibe when you want to be sending a “I’m ready for a man with substance
? vibe, it is wise to look deep within your heart to see what is behind
your singleness.
One way to approach this is to take a few days to compile a list of
all the best parts about your life right now. What are the advantages
of being single? While you might not come up with many at first, if you
work on this for a couple of days, you may surprise yourself. Once your
list is complete, go through each item and decide mindfully whether or
not you are negotiable on it.
This self reflection may be just what the doctor ordered in helping
you discover why you are still single. If you still don’t see yourself
as unapproachable, ask a close friend to go through your list with you.
Her view of your current state of affairs or lack of (sorry, couldn’t
resist) may add extra dimension to your self inquiry.
Once you unearth the root to your singleness, you will have one of
two outcomes. One, you may indeed embrace your singleness with new
passion as it IS life affirming for you or two, you will find yourself
in the right place and the right time more often where you will cross
paths with many more interesting and available men!
Talk about a win-win!
Good luck to you , Andreya!
Catherine
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